Did you know that when we experience rejection the same areas of the brain become activated as when we experience physical pain?
Rejection whether from our friends, families, loved ones, or even a recruiter causes us a lot of pain – neurologically speaking, of course.
But why does rejection hurt so much?
From an evolutionary perspective rejection played a crucial role in our hunter-gatherer days. Our ancestors’ survival depended on belonging to a tribe, and being rejected from a tribe was equal to a death sentence. A solitary human could not have survived the 6 million years of human evolution in the African savannah.
Still to this day rejection is painful. Even though we technically could live in solitary existence, how happy of an existence would that really be?
Sometimes, when life begins to feel a little too overwhelming, stressful, and kind of like the whole plot has been lost, it is worth taking a pause and returning back to the basics.
I like to think of minimalism as a tool with which you gently peel back the layers in order to understand what you want to be in the core of your life. I will re-iterate that minimalism is no one size fits all or a quick fix to everyone’s situation, but instead it is your personal journey to explore and find out how you can lead a more intentional life.
Now, what does living with intention mean?
At the age of 3 I shouted to my mom “now I can go horse riding!” after using the potty myself. The rest is history. Yet 21 years later I am still in awe of horses not just for their beauty, but also how they have impacted my life for the better.
I have always felt that there was something special, empowering, and peaceful about being around horses. Once I walk into the stables or lay my eyes on a horse in a field, all of my worries, stress, and anxiety disappear.
As early as I can remember, I thought or to be exact, believed that I was adopted. This was something I would comment about on the regular to my friends, or when hanging out with my family. Somewhere along the conversation I would throw in the phrase “I’m adopted”.
I never meant it as a mean comment directed at my family, in the likes of “you guys are so embarrassing, I don’t want to be related to you” or that I want to ‘disown’ you. More than anything, it was a feeling like I just didn’t quite fit in. I felt like an imposter.
For many of us our thinking mind is always chatting away. Non-stop. Whilst exercising we may be thinking about our latest work assignment, or, when we are supposedly listening to our neighbour, we are actually thinking about what to eat for lunch.
Our mind is a constant stream of (mostly irrelevant) thoughts, and it likes to control the narrative throughout our daily encounters. Often the excess noise distracts us from everything, hinders our creativity and productivity, as well as creates unnecessary fear and anxiety.
So, what can we do to declutter our mind for a more clear and calm inner world?